One of the greatest gifts came to visit me last week. My absolutely soul sister of a friend, my SAS-sy Syd. In true March style, she came in like a lion and left like a lamb. Clunking up my four flights of stairs with a suitcase that I could fit in (actually, she had more than one) and screeching uncontrollable out of excitement, it was truly a reunion. An 8 hr. reunion, again, very typical of my world-travel-buddy.
Trailing her was the lovable, reliable, and often leveling boyfriend, not dissimilar to mine … as I’m not exactly the easiest person to handle – nor is she. Hence the two-peas-in-pod tendencies of us. She’s literally the fourth Keefe sister, sorry KK and V. After drinking our body weight in alcohol and returning home two hours before their connecting flight out of Newark, I couldn’t have been sadder when she crawled into bed to say goodbye.

The reason I preface this is for two reasons. One, I whole heartedly believe that the people you eat, travel, and experience life with, change the way you eat, travel and experience. I wouldn’t be who I was if there weren’t people who lived boldly and jumped full force into life, disregarding “how it should be.” I wouldn’t love goat cheese if it wasn’t for Alexa, develop a taste for good wine without the teachings of an ex-boyfriend, be able to eat a tomato like an apple if I didn’t grow up in Jersey, be a chef if my mom wasn’t, or have the knack of being able to locate an ice cream place within a mile radius of wherever I am in the world … if it wasn’t for SAS-sy Syd.

Syd is my travel buddy since the moment we sought out an Irish pub in Southeast Asia and mutually ordered silver tequila and seltzers … and apple cobbler. It was above a hundred degrees, humid, and we were in Asia. Neither of us had seen a dessert menu in months, and we didn’t hesitate. We were haphazardly thrown together by our ship-men at the time on a vacation to Thailand. I actually didn’t like her, I remember thinking “this girl is snotty.” No coincidence, she thought the same about me. Bygones be bygones we became fast friends. It is to her I owe (and honed) my ability to find ice cream anywhere. I still swear I lived off white rice and packaged ice cream in rural China.

This brings me to point two. Last week was a bit tumultuous do to injury. Being a chef, you can’t really be injured. Injury = unemployment. Especially as a freelancer, I’m not one to say no. Chefs don’t get sick, hurt or injured. They don’t take holidays, get happy hours, or Saturday nights … you get the idea. Your physical ability to move and grind it out defines a huge portion of how successful you are. As with any job; be on time, do your best, be creative, don’t complain and most importantly, work. As a former athlete, I couldn’t ask for a better work mentality, I define this. Be a “Yes” person.
So this injury threw me off a bit. Not being able to walk, move, or work in the manner I usually do, I was bummed. One thing that cheers me (and almost every girl I know) up is ice cream. Duh. So being taught by the best, Syd, I ventured out for ice cream.
Sitting on a bench, enjoying my ice cream, two girls walk by. Side note, I live in the most fashion forward and wealthy neighborhood in Manhattan. A mecca for beautiful women. I’m not half bad, but these girls were not like me. They were of the former group. So there I am eating my ice cream, minding my own business, soothing my broken ego and Bitch #1 says “Oooh, that looks good.” I smile. Bitch #2 says “Ugh, I do not want be that girl.”
That girl? The girl eating ice cream. Alone. Get over yourselves. Yes, I missed my partner in crime, my ice cream fanatic friend Syd but hell, I was doing what I wanted. Could those girls say the same? I immediately laughed and texted her, I knew she’d be the only one who understood …
Here’s the advice for today … be that girl. Be the girl (or boy!) who treads a different path. Score the dream job. Do something to make yourself happy, live a little, even if it means just indulging in a little ice cream …

















